Who did you decide to be today?

So something that’s been on my mind lately is the personalities we have when we go online. There are a lot of us that are able to relax and be who we want to be on here. The benefit of that is that we seem to be able to reach out to people we normally wouldn’t reach out to and talk to them by being our true “inner” self. But, I’ve noticed a major downside to that over the years I’ve been on here. From time-to-time I’ve had those female profiles online that I’ve used to chat with, etc… Now let me add the caveat that I have never once used them for sexual purposes… No roleplaying, no getting off, nothing along those lines. I have used them for pure friendly chat and getting to know people. The one thing that stands out in my mind is that, guys pay attention here especially; we treat women online like shit. We treat them like objects. I still am amazed at how approachable women seem to be for men here. The comments just fly out of the mouth without any kind of regard to how it’s received on the other end.

With that being said, it turns my interest down the road of our fetish interests. Because of those so we just naturally assume that someone else who shares the same desires should be just as open and willing as we are? Do we continue to assume that they are as interested in that single act that they are as desperate as we are? But why do we treat the women like shit, like objects, like people who are here for our own purposes?

Ok, in all fairness, there is no doubt this goes on with the roles reversed of course. There is no doubt that many of us see the profiles day after day that constantly say things like “no men”, “les only”, etc… The first thing that comes to mind is clearly not all of these people out there are really bisexual or lesbians. But, to me, the next thought has started to become the idea that this is something we’ve possibly created. Do we just target them? Do we just go after them and try to get off and leave? If all of that’s true does it mean that it justifies it all? Sure, there are no clear answers here just because it’s something different for all of us. But at the end of the day, who did you DECIDE to be today? You or the other you?